Do you believe that certain people are meant to come into your life and change everything?
Because it’s happened to me. And I don’t mean like the big ones like my husband or our kids.
I mean everyday people that you don’t ever imagine could have the ability to make such a big impact to your life. People that aren’t family or friends. They’re not from your social circle or socioeconomic sphere. But there they are anyway. Filling holes you never knew existed.
I’m getting asked a lot about how I came up with the idea of Poppy. And the truth is, it was a really the result of a cosmic set of circumstances.
About a month before we had our second daughter, the nanny the Bug adored left us, fairly high and dry. She was looking for more money and with my first startup floundering I didn’t have any more money to give.
I felt horrible and guilty and like I was cheating my daughter (and our family) because of my selfish commitment to getting a startup off the ground.
Into that vacuum, that space, that hole, walked in this most special type of person.
Unassuming, shy, quiet, S was nothing like I would have hired.
I hate to say it, but if I had been shown her resume or knew her story then, I would have judged her away. I was that mom. I was that person.
But I was desperate and I chose to give her a chance.
And I thank my lucky stars every day that I did.
Because she has taught me so much. In her quiet way, she quickly won over the Bug. Creating coffeeshops out of Amazon boxes and flowers out of handprints and discarded peanut butter jars. She has a daughter the exact same age as the Bug and I couldn’t help but connect over the fact that we had both become mothers at the same time – under vastly different circumstances, but united in our love of our silly, sassy girls.
And then I had the Peanut. And as much as I wanted to keep her newborn perfection to myself, it wasn’t long before S was expertly juggling both of my girls.
And for the first time, I realized how truly incredible it is to have yet another partner in raising these kids. How powerful it is to have others that love your kids like their own. To get texts during the day that share one of their crazy antics, not because there is frustration but because there is love. And pride. And joy.
Over time our girls became best friends in a way that defies explanation.
But mostly – she became my inspiration. Because if there was anyone that deserved every success and happiness in life, it was (and is) S.
So I got to thinking, how can the very best caregivers be treated as such. How can the people that are most worthy of caring for and raising our kids when we’re not there, be the ones that work with the families that will recognize and reward their talents?
This thinking eventually led to what Poppy is today.
I’m not certain I would have ever been inspired to solve this problem if S had not walked into our lives. Or if I would have been so optimistic in knowing the magic that is possible when you have a great fit between caregiver and family.
I’m Indian enough to believe in the stars and fates. And that what is meant to be is meant to be.
And I know that my life was meant to be changed forever because this 21 year old walk into it.