We are told, taught and conditioned to seize every opportunity that comes our way. That if the door opens, to confidently and unequivocally walk through it.
But nobody tells you that sometimes, some opportunities are right in theory, but wrong in timing. That accepting them actually does more unintended harm than anticipated good.
Last week, I said no to something that I desperately wanted to say yes to. Not because it wasn't an incredible opportunity but because it's not the right time.
It was one of the hardest things I've ever had to do. Because I am built to seek out possibilities and grab them if they present themselves. It took a couple of agonizing, soul searching days to figure out that it was not the right thing for right now. That accepting it would lead to wonderful outcomes in some ways, but potentially distracting ones in other ways.
So I went against my instincts, my nature, my training and respectfully declined.
And I'm never going to be sure that I made the right decision and a little part of me wishes I had said yes, because it would have been a certain thing, in a time when nothing else is.
But for the first time, I've realized that not all opportunities make sense to pursue with the same abandon and zeal.
Some need time to mature into an even better thing.
Well, patience never was my strong suit. But I'm learning.
Now I just pray to the whim driven start-up gods that I was mature, not misled.